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Intellectualizing relationships makes for awesome dinner party schtick. Two reactions stand out:
I know! That's so true!
The latter indicates that someone's feeling flushed-out or guilty.
We make mental lists of ideal qualities. She/he should be like this, look like that, think like the other. I'll know her when I meet her, she'll stand out like New York in Las Vegas.
In real life we meet prospects who kinda sorta fit our perfect template, and depending upon our level of desperation, we'll ignore whatever doesn't.
* shrug *
This is real life, baby, it ain't no fantasy. Eighty percent compatibility feels like it's the most we can hope for. That prolly goes for life in general.
However. There's always the however. Because the urge to be with someone (read: continue the species) overpowers everything, we are supremely adept at ignoring warning signs in prospects. He's a drug-using philanderer with a history of unemployment and using prostitutes. But he's my John now.
Settle. Go for it. Go on. But don't then expect your day in court when it doesn't work out.
Bottoms Up Deniers.