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I've got a problem.
A colleague problem.
For some reason, I'm extremely prone to crushing on my coworkers. I learned (the not-so-hard way) that it's usually not such a good idea to pursue one romantically. the consequences range from nil, to extremely awkward, to a fucking horror story. Luckily, I've only experienced a mild amount of awkwardness. But I know some people that have even left their jobs to deal with the fact that they got a bit too familiar with that guy 4 cubicles to their left. Doesn't seem worth it, does it?
There's a certain amount of fantasy that contributes itself to workplace crushes. The idea of engaging in an affair that is a secret to your other coworkers. Rendezvous in broom closets. I half blame Grey's Anatomy for portraying an unrealistic picture of such relationships. The truth is that the fantasy disappears once you, ahem, consummate things. You see the person all the time, it breeds anxiety and claustrophobia. You get paranoid around your other colleagues and wonder if they suspect anything. Sound fun?
So, seeing as I'm currently crushing hard core on someone I see walk into the office every so often, I have to be careful. It seems irresistible, I'm giddy at 9 am. I actually put effort into my appearance. I'm getting sucked in. But I have to remember the cost. On the other hand, the workplace is where many people meet their partners. That statement alone can sometimes be enough to make these dalliances good ideas. Have you ever had a successful workplace relationship? HOW DID YOU DO IT?