When You Have To Ignore Dating Advice

By: BKBEE
wrote on Tue, Jan 24, 2012

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I hooked up with a coworker.

Fifteen years older than I.

Against my own advice.

And you know what? I don't regret it. Not one bit.

My therapist told me, after I had been agonizing over flirty emails that I should go for it. And me, being an overly analytical person wondered if it was that easy. Is something that I had told myself was a bad idea, and something a lot of other people had said was a bad idea, a good idea if a therapist says so? I thought and thought, and finally decided that this was my in. If she, a knowledgeable woman with a license in social work said it was AOK, then it was.

There's no one answer to any question. This morning I could have shrunk with akwardness upon entering the building, but instead we just beamed at one another, bursting with a silly secret. It was the perfect weekend, filled with sweetness and perfect conversation. Neither of us had ever expected it to happen, and I could hear my friends telling me "This could get messy." I couldn't stop myself. When you're staring something wonderful in the face, sometimes you have to jump into it. If I hadn't responded to that email, or that text, if I hadn't hopped into that van and driven through the snow to that loft in North Brooklyn I would have missed out on one of the best couple days in the last year. It's better to regret having done something than to regret never having taken any action.