Last year, I was seeing a guy that kept agreeing to dates that rarely worked out, which made me really uncomfortable. He always had work commitments that made him cancel.
At first, I told myself that I had to be reasonable. He couldn’t control his job. He was cute, going places, and, seemed genuinely interested in me. If he canceled, he would always apologize and try and reschedule. Plus, he would always say how committed he was to making “us” work. So, I told myself to try to understand where he was coming from.
Three months later we were at dinner and I noticed him checking his watch. I almost lost it.
Who the hell did he think he was? I was becoming a flake of a friend, brother, and son because I needed to make my life fit his schedule and he – he was checking his watch for the umpteenth time so that he could be on time for something else!
After dinner I hugged him goodbye and never responded to him again. We all deserve to be with people who, if we grant them the same courtesy, prioritize creating a relationship with us.
We all have a gut; so we need to trust it and speak up at the start so that we don’t set ourselves up for failure. Had I listened to my gut, I would have seen that this relationship was going nowhere. I could try and fix and change him to reprioritize, but unless the change came from him, I would never be happy being second best to a blackberry.
Hopefully, he will realize the error of his ways before he gets Carpal tunnel syndrome.